Cut Your Ties with Negative Self-Talk By Savannah Slone

We need to work together to further normalize owning our sense of self-confidence. While putting ourselves down constantly, we’re making life a lot harder than it needs to be. We’re all just doing our best and we need to acknowledge that. 

 

I want to start out by saying that while we do have a major problem, there are a lot of incredible things happening in terms of improved self-esteem right now in social media. For example, if you peruse through the search results of the hashtag #bodypositive on any social media platform, your electronic device will be flooded with exactly what we want to see even more of. People of varying genders, races and body types are owning their thin and curvy bodies, their ribs and cellulite, their acne and skin conditions, and so on.
You can find more body positive social media campaigns here: https://www.bustle.com/articles/75539-9-body-positive-social-media-campaigns-that-are-changing-how-we-perceive-beauty-both-in-and.

When we are constantly fed what we ought to look like, act like and dress like, we realize that those standards are unmanageable. Whether a person doesn’t have the desire to lose weight, struggles to stick to healthy eating, or suffer from a health condition, they shouldn’t be shamed into feeling that they are any less beautiful or worthy of love. They shouldn’t ever have to feel any less, in general. This goes for slimmer folks, as well. By placing a serious mental illness, such as an eating disorder, on a person because they are thin can be equally hurtful. Thyroid issues, for example, can cause people to struggle to gain weight, just as they can have the opposite effect on others. While there are countless other health reasons that a person might be unable to lose or gain weight, hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism are conditions that many face. To learn more about these two conditions and the difference between the two, visit: http://www.everydayhealth.com/thyroid-conditions/hypothyroidism-vs-hyperthyroidism-whats-the-difference.aspx. With those points being made, it is in your best interest to never put down another person’s weight, especially when you don’t know what they might be going through.

Through magazines, television shows, movies, billboards, commercials and so forth, we are presented with images of photoshopped, sexualized objects rather than the average woman that the majority of us can better relate to. Check out this Daily Mail article that demonstrates how even models can’t live up to the standards their photos portray: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2522642/Models-dont-look-better-rest-Photographers-self-portrait-series-proves-just-deceptive-beauty-campaigns-be.html. We’re stuck in a rut of putting our time and souls into attempting to live up to this image of perfection that doesn’t exist.

When we’re all walking around in our own self-doubting bubbles, wondering what others are thinking of us, it turns out that we’re all too busy stuck in this sick cycle to even have the opportunity to be judging others. When you catch yourself participating in that thought process, correct the situation by smiling at or complimenting someone. Not only will you be ending your own negative self-talk, but you’ll be making others feel better about themselves, as well. When we put all of our energy into comparing ourselves, we lose the chance to focus on how we can be more satisfied in life. Upon making this shift, we can begin empowering others through practicing kindness and sharing that we’re letting go of the self-doubt voice in our head. 

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We ought to start building each other up, focusing on bettering ourselves on the inside and begin practicing positive self-talk. Below is a list of examples of what positive self-talk looks like.

I am capable.

I am worthy.

I am beautiful.

I am enough.

I am loved.

I am confident.

I am self-aware and in control of my own life.

I am no more or less than anyone else.

I can grow during tough times.

I am kind.

I am helpful.

I am able.

I am powerful.

Read this Psychology article titled, “The Power of Positive Self-Talk”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hope-relationships/201605/the-power-positive-self-talk.

With an increase in awareness of your negative self-talk, you will remind yourself that you are, indeed, enough. Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.